Dear Abby: My best 45 -year -old friend and I am 65 years old. She has been married since 1985; I have divorced for many years. Recently I was surprised by claiming that a common friend told her that she had had an adventure with a well -known married. This is false, but now I wonder if she said it because she suspects it.
When I got angry and said that I would face the other friend, he demanded that he did not because “he would make her look bad to tell.” Could my suspicion be correct? If the other person were the one who really suspected me, why would I not want me to question her? – Perplex lady in the west
Dear Lady Perplex: Without knowing his best 45 -year -old friend, I’m not in a position to answer that question. However, the safest way to get to the bottom of this would be to go directly to the person that her best friend said to her and ask where she understood that idea.
Dear Abby: For vacations and special occasions, we usually have eight people at a six -place dining table. Two of our guests are “orphans” who were invited by my best. The problem is that man, “George”, is a chain smoker, and I almost always have a headache divided into his presence.
I can contain my breathing during the 10 seconds or so when George and I hug Hi, but what do you suggest or do at the table? I will be at the furthest possible end, but I will still be just a few meters from the problem. Disaverifying them is not an option. – Smoked in California
Dear smoked: You are lucky. You live in California, where it is possible to open windows and obtain cross ventilation. Because it is not possible to uninform these guests, give their dining room as possible air and insist that if their guests “must” smoking, they do it outside and far from the open windows.
Dear Abby: My daughter is going to get married in a few weeks and insists that she feels with her father at the ceremony. Abby, we have divorced for 20 years. They have married me for 12 years. His father has not married.
My husband has not tried to replace his father, and I think he is rude that he is expected to sit with the guests instead of me, his wife. I was forced to do this at my other daughter’s wedding a few months ago, and she was very uncomfortable. I want to wait for my daughter’s day. What is your opinion about this? – Musical chairs in Pennsylvania
Dear musical chairs: You should not have accepted that seat arrangement at the wedding of your other daughter, and you should not do it in this case. Your husband belongs to your side. If you and your ex are friendly, your ex could sit on your husband’s opposite side. If you are not, you could sit at the end of the row in the hall. But her husband should not be forced to sit “with the other guests” because she is more than a guest; He is a family member.
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