Dear Abby: I am 58 years old and five years in my second marriage. We live together just over a year before we get married. I spent seven years as a caregiver for my parents before getting married with my current husband.
We moved to Kentucky from Florida because his mother needed us nearby, but from the movement, he has become someone I barely know. Finally we obtained his severe depression under control, but he has become petty and vindictive. It is a kind of thug. See nothing more than videos of conspiracy theory on YouTube. I don’t know what to do. It was not so when we left.
I was planning to go in a couple of years, but it has improved a little since it is in the right medications. I need to rebuild my credit after recent years and save money. I am putting the majority of my payment check in a separate account. But it is really difficult to overcome in recent years. He hopes he takes care of his mother, who abandoned him as a child. I don’t want to. I really don’t like it. Am I wrong to be thinking of leaving? – Stuck nowhere
Dear stuck: It is possible that her husband has married you, so she had someone who takes care of your mother. You paid your quotas for seven years with your own parents. Remind your husband that you moved to Kentucky so that he, not you, could take care of his mother, and you will not allow you to impose it to you. Keep out your money, and when you have enough to start, decide if you want to move on.
Dear Abby: I am a 20 -year -old gay man who was seeing a boy in about 50 who lives a couple of hours away. For almost two months, we talked almost every day and saw each other as the allowed time. I thought we had a great chemistry, and kept it in high esteem. (He even introduced me to your column).
Out of nowhere, he says that he only feels friendship for me and that we are not in the same place emotionally. It is a total blow. I feel I did or said something wrong, but I don’t know what it is, so I’m blaming myself. Full of all our conversations and dates on my head, looking for where I was wrong.
How do I break this cycle? And how can I allow myself to trust other men, especially older men, when I feel so burned by my interaction with Mr. Fifties? – Twenty -so many in Tennessee
Dear twenty -so many: Please stop being so hard with yourself. Sometimes something happened. Maybe chemistry between you two was not as strong as you thought. It is also possible that you have met someone and have not had the courage to be honest about it. Whatever your reason, you have no choice but to accept that you two were not in the same place emotionally. It is time to move forward without assuming that all older men are the same.
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