Dear Abby: My mother -in -law lives with us, and she and my husband are very good friends. They are a lot of the same. They are outgoing and are Huggers and talk a lot. I feel like a third wheel most of the time, but I occupy reading elsewhere in the house or leaving.
Everything seems to go quite well, except that before bedtime, they hug and give a quick kiss on the lips. I find it disgusting. I have told my husband how I feel about it, and he says: “It’s my mother.” I say: “I didn’t even hug my dad, much less I kissed him on the lips.” I think I’m tired of living with us. Do you think it is normal to kiss? – Postpone in Oregon
Dear postponed: If I think it is appropriate that her husband’s mother kisses him in the mouth is irrelevant. I suppose this is something he has done since he was a child and, therefore, is normal for them. Your relationship with your father has nothing to do with that. There is Something is wrong if you feel like a third wheel most of the time. It is not healthy, and will continue until you have a sincere talk with your husband about it.
Dear Abby: My godchildren and I was always very close. They literally consider me their second mother. Until now, we were blessed with great communication. The elder always sent me a warm greeting of Mother’s Day and called me often.
About a year ago, he began to ignore all my Oberturas. His younger sister, who also grows with children, commented how strange she was, but now she is doing it too. She said she thought it was terrible, but now she no longer returns telephone calls. From time to time, he will send a love text message, but she says she is busy.
My godson, which I am closer, has no problems like this. When I ask him if he thinks that something is wrong with my girls or if his feelings towards me have changed, he says they are probably busy. When I ask the youngest if something is wrong, she always says: “No, I love you, mom! I’ve been busy.” But she no longer starts contact. The older girl now ignores me completely. I don’t know what to do. My adult godchildren are like mine. Please help. – Sad godmother in Florida
Dear godmother: You are taking silence as rejection, which is a mistake. Your godchildren are no longer children. They are adults with adult responsibilities, including children, spouses and careers that fill their time. Your godson and your youngest girlfriend have told you why they are not in contact so often as they used to be. It’s time to go back. Fill your time with other activities, such as activities you enjoy, time with contemporaries and voluntary in your free time for the causes you feel worth it.
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