Dear Abby: I was married to a police officer for 20 years. It was not a warm marriage. We divorced 20 years ago. Our only child is about 30 years old. I always put my son first and loved him with all my heart.
During the last year of my marriage, my ex was poisoning my coffee. After drinking my afternoon cup of the afternoon, my heart rate would reach 200 beats per minute until I passed out. When I woke up, the rate would return to normal. I set up a camcorder and captured it by placing something in the coffee well. At that time, we had half a million dollars in life insurance. This poisoning had been happening from time to time for about a year until I finally discovered it.
I didn’t confront my husband and moved immediately. I didn’t tell anyone except my mother. I didn’t tell my son because I wanted to protect him from knowing something so horrible about his father. My son has hated me since divorce because I received half of his father’s pension. I never revealed the physical and mental abuse I endured.
My son speaks to me only once or twice a year, and when he does, he is very unpleasant. My heart is broken on this. I think I should have told him about this a long time ago, but I’m afraid that even with the recording proof, no one would have believed that a police officer would do such a thing. I didn’t want my son to live with knowledge. That recording is in a safety box at the bank. Should I destroy it? – Survived in the east
Dear survived: No, you should not destroy the recording. Tell a trusted friend or your lawyer who has a security box that wants him to open in his death and what is in him. Then that recording is copied and the copy sent to your child. He deserves to know the whole story instead of just his father’s side.
Dear Abby: My brother -in -law and his wife expect their first child. My husband and I are happy for them. Recently we share that we expect our first child two months after them. They were surprised, but they seemed excited that we were raising children of similar age.
Unfortunately, the next day, I suffered a spontaneous abortion and was hospitalized the following week with complications. Two weeks have passed, and neither my husband nor I have had news of them. We know they are aware of what happened. I am surprised that they would not register or send a text message. What should we do with your lack of contact? – Future Mama in Pennsylvania
Estimated future mom: What you should do with your lack of contact is that you don’t know what to say. They could suffer a surviving form because their pregnancy is progressing. Because they are an extended family, the possibilities are great that we see them again. Raising the subject would be appropriate if you feel the need.
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